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Love me Tender
Joined: 07 Feb 2014
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| indeed, Tangela! I have given up. Guys just look at the photos and if your photo doesn't interest him he flips to the next one. Never mind reading profiles....and forget about the messages. I never answer any message that just says hi! If he isn't articulate enough to send a proper message, I am not going to bother to respond...... |
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bobsledgeman
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| Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2014 7:41 pm Post subject: |
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| What is even worse, is the idiot that posted a picture of his privates as a profile pic. WTF ??? |
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LeonBotha
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HaHaHa you know you people are so funny why worry what others do on this site? All advice I can give is look for what you want not what they offer if you know what I'm saying because personally I am also guilty by not reading a profile,but its for a reason and that reason is so when we start chatting we at least got a lot to chat about because I'm sick and tired of people just saying Hi How You? What you up to? and that's it. And for these people with the nude pictures I don't think they here to look for women I think they here to make there own name ass but that's my point view. So come on lets make the best of this after all I knew when this site was for free there is going to be a lot of rubbish here but I ignore them no its hard but worth a try.  |
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Shawn
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| Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2014 2:08 am Post subject: Hey |
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| Well, what i actually notice is that this freaks are just hungry for sex and all that and they're just in search of a prey which they could just have a fling with and then yank off. It's so alarming that they even tarnish we the rest images and ladies now believe we are birds of the same feathers that flocks together which is not true. Actually, there are still whole lots of good guys out there and i am not saying i am good but i'm better off some people and it's only when you get close to anyone that you'll know what kinda guy he is. #Wisdom#!!! |
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peterm
Joined: 15 Jul 2014
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Location: Pietermaritzburg
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| Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2014 11:28 am Post subject: Re: why worry about profiles |
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| tangela wrote: | | I am so tired of guys that don't bother or take the time to read a persons profile and then they wonder why they don't get a reply or the reply is nasty. And flip does a guy think if he sends you a nude pic of himself does he think it impresses a person its a huge turn off for me. Because its not that that defines a person. Is there actually any decent guys out there. |
Do you understand the psychology of male female selection? Would it surprise you to find that they were totally different?
male = replicator Selection based on ability to bear children. Therefore hip to waist ratio, breasts....
female = nest builder Selection based on status, safety, security.
Women read profile men look at pic. Women test, pry and probe to obtain more information.
Men see visible attributes, the rest determines length of relationship. |
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peterm
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| Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2014 12:18 pm Post subject: |
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| Juanita wrote: | | Hi, I am new to this. Been reading your posts. It is really sad that someone would post a nude picture, it is disgusting. However I do believe there are really decent men out there. I know there are because I look at my friends husbands and my family members (the men) and I see how they treat their wives. They treat them with love, kindness and respect and their wives absolutely adore them. Don't give up hope. I have not put a picture up of myself, I am hesitant as I feel I don't want men contacting me because of how I look. I have had people respond to me without my picture. They took the time to read my profile. |
Some guys do read the profile but DNA says they are going to look at the pic. They cannot help that. The same as you think the profile is more important guys think tall, dark, ripped and handsome with a fat wallet and nice car does it for woman.
If you want to attract a guy you don't put up a poster with a profile on it. You make 100% sure your best features as well as the sexual (child bearing ability) attributes are featured. Don't take that wrong, a little bit of cleavage is better than an Eskimo outfit. The more you over do it the more drooling idiots you will get. But if you got it, show some of it. Best hone your selection skills first. A pic is essential. |
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Love me Tender
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| Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2014 3:06 pm Post subject: |
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| Let's continue to name and shame the idiots! |
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peterm
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| Juanita wrote: | | The people who sent me a message made the effort and took the time to read my profile which says something to me... They are not shallow. Maybe I am wrong maybe I am right don't know. Will keep you posted. |
With a photograph you stand a far better chance. Many guys will not bother the same way you do if they don't read your profile. In reality your choice is no different to theirs.
It does not take long to pick out the chancers. Sounds to good probably is. Comes on like a freight train, probably is. Asks for anything "unusual" run and do not let your heart rule this decision becasue he looks/sounds like a great catch. Keep track of what is said, good liars have to have excellent memories. Watch for inconsistencies.
Any guy who is pedantic about pets and puts the relationship on the line is not the person you or anyone else should be looking for unless he is allergic to them.  and intends to commit to a long term relationship. Good luck. |
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peterm
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BTW if you share your bed with bunch of pets don't expect the guy not to complain.  Pick which you prefer in you bed. That is not a choice between yourself and your pets. That is being selfish, pets don't belong on beds that are being shared unless BOTH agree. You would not let him fix his motorcycle in the kitchen would you. How would you feel about his pet lizard in his bed? It really does take two to tango. |
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peterm
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| tangela wrote: | | You are so full of yourself, when we met he knew from the start about my little dogs being on the bed my side only and when we spent the night at his place his dog slept in the bed. And when you start dating someone don't hide things and be truthful from go one. I never lied or hid the facts about my animals or my kids. And I have had the bike parts in the house before |
You believe you are right even when you know you are wrong. No need to get personal.
It's not about honesty. It is about respect for the other. Pets don't really belong on a bed. My wife allowed the cat on the bed. The cat soon learnt which side of the bed that was. You want three dogs on top of you fine. Don't expect some guy to find that attractive, sexy or encouraging of a relationship. Don't be surprised when it becomes an issue because you forced him to make a choice he did not want to make. He chose you. Not you and three dogs on the bed.
So put that in your profile if you intend to be honest. Deal breaker - my three dogs sleep on my bed. Funny I don't see it.
I don't care where your dogs slept. When you invited him into your bed you had a choice. All he said was I am not wiling to share you with anyone or anything in bed. You chose the dogs, he moved on. The dogs were more important to you than a relationship.
Don't try to justify it. Learn from it. No I am not full of myself in fact I am very self concious and have a very low self esteem because I piss people off by pointing out reality. They prefer BS to facts and biting peoples heads off trying to prove they are right.
But if he has the same attitude and his dog sleeps on the bed as well he was just looking for an excuse. One should not make demands of others that you are not willing to do. Good for you in kicking him out. Wants it his way. Not willing to negotiate or compromise. |
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