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Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2014 9:47 pm Post subject: y do men cheat when they have beautiful women |
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fredb1
Joined: 13 Jul 2012 Posts: 5
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Posted: Thu Aug 14, 2014 8:53 am Post subject: |
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When woman stop thinking that they grant men big favors for allowing intimacy and admit they enjoy it also stop the Victorian ideas. Thank goodness my late was not and she was beautiful we had a wonder full time |
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bobsledgeman
Joined: 13 Aug 2014 Posts: 6
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Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2014 11:08 am Post subject: |
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I think it is more complex than that. There is an old saying that behind every beautiful woman there is a man that is sick of her problems. I think it is safe to assume that it refers to physical beauty, and not the complete package. For me beauty is not skin deep, but I do find myself being married to a person who is physically very attractive. But after a few years of marriage I've come to realize that people change, and that we no longer have what we use to. The situation is a bit more complex than that, so walking out is not really an option. And for her, physical interaction is no longer on the table (And no, it is not that I'm not trying hard enough anymore, believe me I constantly try all the tricks I used when we were still dating).
Yes, there are Dogs out there, just as there are Bitches. But everyone has unique situation, and are trying to cope in their own silly way. |
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peterm
Joined: 15 Jul 2014 Posts: 260 Location: Pietermaritzburg
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Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2014 9:45 pm Post subject: |
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Perhaps it is a double wammy. Beautiful woman don't have to work very hard to get guys falling over themselves that they do not learn how to maintain a relationship as they are the star attraction. At some point the gloss wears off, the guy gets tired of being treated like baggage. The first woman who appreciates him for who he is has got more than his attention.
All relationships are a two way street. A 50/50 partnership.
This works equally well for guys who by status attract women and treat them like baggage or yesterdays news. The biggest mess is when two of these meet hence so few Hollywood marriages work. |
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[email protected]
Joined: 13 Aug 2014 Posts: 1
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Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2014 10:55 pm Post subject: |
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Not every man is a cheater some of us just never got that chance.Im not a cheater hence Im single and a lot of good guys out there trying their hardest. |
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peterm
Joined: 15 Jul 2014 Posts: 260 Location: Pietermaritzburg
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Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2014 2:07 am Post subject: |
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[email protected] wrote: | Not every man is a cheater some of us just never got that chance.Im not a cheater hence Im single and a lot of good guys out there trying their hardest. |
Most guys I know try to sway a woman by pandering to her every demand or buying her attention. Don't, you are just making yourself look beneath her so she needs to find better.
Rather tell her you have tried your best but it takes two to make a relationship work. If she wants to go, the door is open, there are plenty of fish in the sea. And mean it. You cannot hold onto something by force or begging. Either she comes to the party or not and you found out sooner. No relationship can work for long when one is the others pawn.
Never give up trying and chose wisely. Never be to needy it just turns off the ladies and there are plenty of fish in the sea. |
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peterm
Joined: 15 Jul 2014 Posts: 260 Location: Pietermaritzburg
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Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2014 1:13 pm Post subject: |
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beewitch wrote: | 29th Aug, am 2 Years single...Have told my friends we must celebrate...I was in an abusive relationship for 16 years...Last year met a guy online...oh he was amazing...or so I thought, after our 1st month of chatting & was nice...we chatted about everthing & no...sex wasnt even mentioned...when he did, started sending pics of his dick,
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So guess, way some guys feel...so do us chicks too... |
You are absolutely right, there are complete assholes on both sides and somewhere is a nice person. The only way of getting there unless you are lucky it to wade through the pile of rubbish.
Your selection criteria seems to be your problem. What type of responses are you dismissing as boring or uninteresting? Try chatting to a few guys who you don't think are A grade material but seem nice and see how it goes. |
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Phenomenal1
Joined: 19 Aug 2014 Posts: 3
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Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2014 3:44 pm Post subject: |
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You know ladies and gentlemen there are always two sides to a tale especially this one. While in God's eyes we are all beautiful as we've been created in His image; we all have the capacity to be extremely ugly.....if you ugly on the inside you ugly on the outside....your physical beauty will have no meaning although it will serve its purpose of having a handsome or beautiful partner. Basically some women think that their physical beauty should cover up for their faults and wherever else they lack and in the process forget to be human beings and forget to treat others in a proper way. Do not misunderstand me ladies because some of us react in this manner because it's possibly the standards that society has set or one's which we've set ourselves and if it is the latter then we serious issues. On the other side of this tale, it is said that men, no matter how young or old, do not know what they want however will know what they've lost when they've lost it, sadly at that point its too late.....guys forgive me if this sounds sexist but do your brains really work in reverse.....I mean what would make a man, who has a partner who does absolutely everything in her power to make him happy because her heart is fulfilled when she sees the joy she is able to bring him on his face, cheat? Simply put he doesn't know what he wants, never has known and never will know. Unfortunately ladies we've all had a turn to be swept up in this web of deceit. I mean you know you love him he knows you love him and yet the ungrateful, selfish "man" continues to do what he does. Man is in inverted comas because sadly a lot of you guys have forgotten that there is so much more to being a man that just the get in get off get out mentality that 99.9% of you possess.
So basically these are the two categories into which this tale falls.....ladies is the error really with you or gents is it with you......you decide and hopefully make the changes that are needed to correct it. Something I'd like to leave you with....."The purpose of life is to Love....how well you live comes down to how much you love. The heart is wiser than the head. Honour it. Trust it. Follow it." |
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peterm
Joined: 15 Jul 2014 Posts: 260 Location: Pietermaritzburg
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Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2014 8:39 pm Post subject: |
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Phenomenal1 wrote: | You know ladies and gentlemen there are always two sides to a tale especially this one. |
Absolutely correct. A relationship is a two way street. Unless one is willing to resolve problems it is never going to work. When I see problems it invariably is two people determined not to change their mind or see the other point of view.
Quote: | So basically these are the two categories into which this tale falls.....ladies is the error really with you or gents is it with you......you decide and hopefully make the changes that are needed to correct it. Something I'd like to leave you with....."The purpose of life is to Love....how well you live comes down to how much you love. The heart is wiser than the head. Honour it. Trust it. Follow it." |
I do not know that one can have a blanket statement like that. There are obvious differences in thought processes. Women are in GENERAL far more emotional and men are more logical. It sometimes makes for a complete misunderstanding.
How does a guy answer a question like "am I to fat". No matter what you say you are dead meat. So why was the question asked? Ladies can answer that one and I bet it has nothing to do with fat. Guys confused...... you bet. |
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Ruffdogg
Joined: 31 Jul 2013 Posts: 11
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Posted: Wed Sep 03, 2014 1:11 am Post subject: |
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truthfully some men jst dnt no wat they have...or had till its gone..sad but true |
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Ruffdogg
Joined: 31 Jul 2013 Posts: 11
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Posted: Wed Sep 03, 2014 12:24 pm Post subject: |
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sum ppl are like that...I cant speak for them but its jst not clever to talk abt sex 24/7 there so much more to a relationship than that...if thats what u got. |
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peterm
Joined: 15 Jul 2014 Posts: 260 Location: Pietermaritzburg
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Posted: Sat Sep 06, 2014 12:24 am Post subject: |
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beewitch wrote: | Peterm, am not fussy who I speak to. Just get put off when I get told that am Victorian...am not. SEX Is not as imprtant as friendship. How do you get to know a person if all he wants to do is talk sex or swop naughty pics???
I reply to you, so am I speaking to A grade only? Then guess am picky
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I agree with you 100% that there are many things to talk about and that is life. I accept that some people are fixated with sex and baggage and they are not worth talking to. Hell I know we are human and sex plays a part in our lives but sheez there is more to life than just sex. Not that I am against sex but I find things so much better getting to know somebody first. Perhaps I'm greedy but one night stands don't interest me much.
Relationships are far more interesting and rewarding. Love to me is far more important. With love one can take a pleasure cruise when you want. |
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peterm
Joined: 15 Jul 2014 Posts: 260 Location: Pietermaritzburg
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Posted: Sun Sep 14, 2014 12:14 am Post subject: |
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beewitch wrote: | Agree Peterm...
With love comes respect. Getting to know 1 is really important to me. Like I've mentioned before, have friends & of them know 2 years & others just more then a year....I cherish my friends I've met & who means alot to me. My friend always reminds me, they acquaintances...like Peter or Frisco, they more they hoonest & decent friends...
Sex to me is between 2 people, who want to make it work, who wants to be together...its special or suppose to be. |
To guys and I don't think the girls are much different there are two way of looking at it.
1) like two ships passing in the night. A brief encounter of mutual benefit and probably not see each other again.
2) something more meaningful that cements a relationship.
I really would not know I'm a romantic at heart |
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peterm
Joined: 15 Jul 2014 Posts: 260 Location: Pietermaritzburg
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Posted: Mon Sep 15, 2014 4:41 pm Post subject: |
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beewitch wrote: | Then I'd go for choice 2...lol |
The secrets out, girls have six times more pleasure sensors than guys. When they say they don't like sex.... genetics says different.
But all sex is mostly in the mind. For guys that may only be a very small portion of the mind. Most guys don't have a clue and only have one thing in mind. Interesting question does lust turn to love? |
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peterm
Joined: 15 Jul 2014 Posts: 260 Location: Pietermaritzburg
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Posted: Wed Sep 17, 2014 1:47 pm Post subject: |
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beewitch wrote: | Doubt it.
Been seeing a guy now 3 weeks & we havent had sex...Take it slow & get to know 1 another. |
OK but science says different . Beside what I meant was that females are CAPABLE of getting far more out of sex. Different organisms, multiple orgasms and a far larger sensitive surface area ( erogenous zones. ) I would think it unusual if they did not have a healthy interest in sex. Not just penetration itself. Which to many is just boring without the build up. I suppose if one has to go through child bearing you may as well get something out of it
Good luck with the guy. I wish you all the best. |
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