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Crazy23
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I disagre, hw abt sumthn catchy like: bitter-sweet (",)
orrrrrr Sweet-an-Spicey?
yeah, i'd defin8ly hitt on someone called sweet-an-spicey, lol, but im weird like that. |
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peterm
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| Posted: Sat Nov 01, 2014 11:34 am Post subject: |
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| Bitterness wrote: | | There is nothing wrong with my name. Bitterness is catchy and sweet. |
I also does not say anything positive about you other that a reflection of you. My immediate thoughts were there goes a load of baggage.
I have no idea what caused the "bitterness" but I suggest you figure if anyone else is interested or why they should be. Be what you want to be. |
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thandi77777
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| Posted: Sat Nov 01, 2014 2:37 pm Post subject: |
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| @ kalis would a pretty profile pic make bitterness sweeter ? Is that really what its all about. ? |
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thandi77777
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| Posted: Sat Nov 01, 2014 3:05 pm Post subject: |
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| A profile pic says nothing about who you are. All it does is show how great your camera does its job. I've met guys who looked better than their cheap camera profile pics And vice versa. Ms bitterness wants honesty , intergrity and is waiting patiently regardless.And that to me says she is willing to be better and not just bitter. |
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peterm
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| Posted: Mon Nov 03, 2014 1:58 pm Post subject: |
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| thandi77777 wrote: | | A profile pic says nothing about who you are. All it does is show how great your camera does its job. I've met guys who looked better than their cheap camera profile pics And vice versa. Ms bitterness wants honesty , intergrity and is waiting patiently regardless.And that to me says she is willing to be better and not just bitter. |
Well the experts and DNA disagree. For a guy, any guy it is mostly visual and if one wants to start off with a such a disadvantage that's fine but know that it is a disadvantage.
And I am going to disagree woman say they want serious, loving, kind, honest, loyal, faithful.... and when they find somebody like that the first thing they do is toss him out "no chemistry" = I don't want to have sex with him.
The prototype of what chemistry is for them, is their ex. What they say they want = a dog. What the want to have sex with = what they really are looking for.
No guy wants a pile of baggage and "bitterness" suggests a pile of baggage. It is hugely negative |
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thandi77777
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My my@peterm . You sound more bitter than bitterness all that talk about being dwarfed by the ex and being denied sex. Sex for men and women is different. Women (real women ) want to know they are safe before they give it up. Make her feel safe and her fears over her ex are out the window. Sex is visual intimacy is not. Figure it out. Chemistry happens when she feels SAFE. Profile pics may excite yo hormones but don't say why u are on this website if u r looking for love not sex.
Kallis profile pic doesn't say much for sex but is lovable (most of my friends say so )bitterness may allude to the movie diary of a mad black woman. Give her some TLC and u will know REAL chemistry. Try it. |
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peterm
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| Posted: Fri Nov 07, 2014 12:06 pm Post subject: |
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| thandi77777 wrote: | My my@peterm . You sound more bitter than bitterness all that talk about being dwarfed by the ex and being denied sex. Sex for men and women is different. Women (real women ) want to know they are safe before they give it up. Make her feel safe and her fears over her ex are out the window. Sex is visual intimacy is not. Figure it out. Chemistry happens when she feels SAFE. Profile pics may excite yo hormones but don't say why u are on this website if u r looking for love not sex.
Kallis profile pic doesn't say much for sex but is lovable (most of my friends say so )bitterness may allude to the movie diary of a mad black woman. Give her some TLC and u will know REAL chemistry. Try it. |
I have absolutely no idea where you got this. | Quote: | | You sound more bitter than bitterness all that talk about being dwarfed by the ex and being denied sex. |
I think you are mistaking knowledge for some emotional meaning or letting your mind wander into unknown territory.
Chemistry happens when the DNA or instinctive needs are met. And that is aimed at procreation and only procreation. Survival of the species.
No do not think for one minute woman's way of evaluation is the same for males. I gave you a male perspective. I really don't care if you think I am wrong but you would do far better if you paid attention to it. A guy has summed up a suitable mate within seconds of seeing her. His only interest is to procreate. Woman on the other hand have a considerably more difficult evaluation process but it still revolves around SEX. When sex is ruled out the poor guy is dumped and immediately forgotten or friend zoned. That is assuming he passed the visual evaluation. Presentation, appearance, clothes, body language, posture... takes 3..10 seconds for a woman. Next is his opening statement which on its own is enough to end it. Then the mind games begin. Instant death - Hi beautiful can I buy you a drink...buzz off I'm busy.
So woman are looking for the Alpha male, the leader of the pack, the guy who represents STATUS, protection, safety and security.
Unfortunately many mistake a violent nature for protection and security. The leader of the pack has to fight his way to the top. The nerd has no chance.
So make your pic look good and have more that one if possible at least one full length. |
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peterm
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| beewitch wrote: | | Agree...don't judge, each 1 of us has baggage...any which way you look at it but life does go on....we ourselves must decide how... |
You are right but the question was what kind of impression does the profile and pic make. That is something different. If anyone is looking for bees they know what to put out there. If you want flies try something that attracts flies.
Yes we all judge a book by its cover in online dating and I can point you to a number who do not even respond when sent a message and you know they have read the message because they look at your profile. I don't have a problem with it, that is life. For all they know they may have missed the opportunity of a life time. It's not my problem.
Nobody is going to date somebody who advertises their baggage in their profile. Others have said and I am emphatically stating it. Lose every hint of it. It's just advice, good advice. We all want responses and opportunities. Here they are, do a good job for best results.
Enjoy the weekend life is to short to take to seriously. |
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