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peterm
Joined: 15 Jul 2014
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Location: Pietermaritzburg
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 Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2014 11:00 pm Post subject: Re: I gues the colour of one skin will always matter.. |
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| pearlyt wrote: | I used to think love ddnt have a colour, it should not have a colour but people still attach a certain colour to it,, am assuming we all have the same colour of blood and bones,,, why need to label something that should be shared no matter the colour of the skin. Am looking for love and not skin colour if I want colour il ask my 2year old cousin draw spider man for me.  |
I am not sure how I should answer your statement but love is not blind and always has qualifications. Love means what we find comfortable. What we like, what we are attracted to and all of these are emotional terms. None of them have a specific colour attached.
Is it not wonderful that we all don't love the same person and we are all different. |
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eskarina
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| Posted: Sun Nov 16, 2014 11:08 pm Post subject: |
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| Dating is complicated enough as it is. Dating someone from another race is a complication I don't want to add to my dating experience. |
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Es72
Joined: 20 Nov 2014
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| Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2014 3:56 am Post subject: |
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| In a perfect world it would not matter....perfection's overrated anyway |
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Leomatters
Joined: 03 Feb 2015
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| Posted: Sat Mar 07, 2015 8:25 am Post subject: |
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| Es72 wrote: | | In a perfect world it would not matter....perfection's overrated anyway |
Please, I have been looking for the perfect world my live over. Can you point me in the right direction. i don't think its on this mother earth anyway.
So lets just be what we are and what allows us to be comfortable with. I married a woman, same race, but from a foreign country with different language, it was at times like hell on earth. My answer, NEVER AGAIN!  |
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Leomatters
Joined: 03 Feb 2015
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| Posted: Sat Mar 07, 2015 10:25 am Post subject: |
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| Lydiaswa wrote: | | Love crosses borders and goes beyond the skin color |
True but what is the result of true love between a man and a woman, we are human and are here to multiply. So the once who experience difficulties are the children who have to find their identity. Something many struggle with.
I worked with many different cultures and enjoyed their company in business and private. I just draw a line when it comes to love/lovemaking and the result of it. That's where responsible people should stop and think twice. |
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Misstaken29
Joined: 09 Mar 2015
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Since I am a dark skinned mixed race Cape coloured female,people just assume that I am cultured when I'm not. It wasn't possible to stay grounded in the traditions and norms of coloureds while traveling and living in culture rich places like parts of Asia. I've also lived in England and Australia. These experiences early on in life really opened my mind and heart and I don't feel like I belong to one group or the other. I'd like to rather see myself as a world citizen belonging to the human race and looking for love on earth.
A concept that has been rejected and laughed at by many of my 'coloured peeps' my black friends and white friends have a bit of a hard time understanding me too.
Wish we all could just stop placing limitations to ourselves and try something different. Something new. You might enjoy it or gain insight from the experience. |
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Dave6605
Joined: 08 Mar 2015
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| Posted: Tue Mar 10, 2015 12:22 pm Post subject: Whites are human Africans are not go google it |
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| Misstaken29 wrote: | Since I am a dark skinned mixed race Cape coloured female,people just assume that I am cultured when I'm not. It wasn't possible to stay grounded in the traditions and norms of coloureds while traveling and living in culture rich places like parts of Asia. I've also lived in England and Australia. These experiences early on in life really opened my mind and heart and I don't feel like I belong to one group or the other. I'd like to rather see myself as a world citizen belonging to the human race and looking for love on earth.
A concept that has been rejected and laughed at by many of my 'coloured peeps' my black friends and white friends have a bit of a hard time understanding me too.
Wish we all could just stop placing limitations to ourselves and try something different. Something new. You might enjoy it or gain insight from the experience. |
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Vee_007
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| Posted: Fri Mar 13, 2015 11:46 am Post subject: |
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| I am a black man and I Would not date outside my race. Sometimes it takes more than just love to make things work, it should be practical as well. |
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Sangria
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| Speaking of beating around the bush: Practical cross-cultural challenges aside, if you're "incapable" of finding someone outside your own race attractive aesthetically, you're racist. Bottom line. We ALL carry ingrained prejudices from as early as childhood. The key to positive change is recognising them rather than excusing them, and continually asking ourselves the difficult questions. |
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Vee_007
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| I have a deep understanding of my history I am proud of being a pure black person and I am proud to be associated with my race. I do not have a problem with other races, I am just proud of mine. I do not want to date outside my race not because of my looks or incapability to do so I just do not want to. What you are implying is that a black person is supposed or expected to long for a white partner, that kind of thinking is the kind that has racial undertones. I do not want it, because I do not, not that I cannot get it, it is as if you are saying that I have to want it. |
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Zalt
Joined: 16 Mar 2015
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| Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2015 10:24 pm Post subject: Dark ladies around Pretoria? |
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| Looking for the darker skined ladies around Pretoria |
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Inaa
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| Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2015 7:32 am Post subject: |
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| It's all in the head, go out there and date whoever you like. It's fun and great life is about experiencing new things anyway, so take all those negative thoughts and throw them away and do it. Action speaks louder than words. |
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eskarina
Joined: 04 Nov 2014
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| Posted: Thu Apr 02, 2015 10:26 am Post subject: |
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| Have anyone ever stopped and asked themselves....why are there different races? There must be a reason behind it so why not honor that reason and stay with your own race. If we were not suppose to have any racial identity we would have been all the same color. Who invented the idea that it is bad to identify and stick to your own race when it comes to relationships? Especially religious people should not even think about crossing that line. God made you the way you are and you are not to create a mixed race that is different from the way God made you. |
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