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mike74
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 Posted: Tue Nov 18, 2014 9:49 pm Post subject: from sex pistol to sex celibacy |
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| What ever your choices are when it comes to waiting for marriage or just having a good old time .. thus forum is intended to discuss . The differences that can come in any relationship when it comes to 1 party have being sexually active and the other not .. and where is the general compromise |
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peterm
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| Posted: Tue Nov 18, 2014 11:02 pm Post subject: Re: from sex pistol to sex celibacy |
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| mike74 wrote: | | What ever your choices are when it comes to waiting for marriage or just having a good old time .. thus forum is intended to discuss . The differences that can come in any relationship when it comes to 1 party have being sexually active and the other not .. and where is the general compromise |
I'm not with you are you suggesting they should be equally matched in sexual partners? |
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mike74
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| Posted: Wed Nov 19, 2014 12:24 am Post subject: |
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| No . I'm simply offering up the topic .. For example I recently came out of a celibate relationship . Where before that I was sexually active . And had generated a sex drive . It only added pressure to our relationship that she felt no matter what I could say . That she could never please me . She also felt concerned that I would cheat on her .. i wasn't. ...but yes in my opinion I do feel that sexually matched partners is important . Or atleast on a level where comprising is acceptable |
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peterm
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| Posted: Wed Nov 19, 2014 9:13 am Post subject: |
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| mike74 wrote: | | No . I'm simply offering up the topic .. For example I recently came out of a celibate relationship . Where before that I was sexually active . And had generated a sex drive . It only added pressure to our relationship that she felt no matter what I could say . That she could never please me . She also felt concerned that I would cheat on her .. i wasn't. ...but yes in my opinion I do feel that sexually matched partners is important . Or atleast on a level where comprising is acceptable |
In a relationship there is always compromise. That is a must but for some people compromise may be difficult. Food, Religion, Sex and sex drive, smoking, habits, life-style.....
You are probably not going to find all and nothing as an easy compromise, Even the level of no sex ie no physical contact to no penetration. Depends on the reason as well in understanding.
Not an easy question. |
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mike74
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| Posted: Wed Nov 19, 2014 11:22 am Post subject: |
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| I absolutely love your input guys . And you are right sometimes you find someone who you are willing to make that full connection with . And if they aren't ready . Or want to wait till marriage . You just have to learn to let that special person go . If it's one of deal breaker. Then so be it . Some times love isn't enough . And you really have to look for what you want in a relationship |
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mike74
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| Posted: Thu Nov 20, 2014 7:19 pm Post subject: |
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| Exactly Alan . I mean I really loved that bird .. but world wide the average person has about 10 partners ..i am not going to sit on the side and watch |
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peterm
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| Posted: Thu Nov 20, 2014 10:10 pm Post subject: |
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| mike74 wrote: | | Exactly Alan . I mean I really loved that bird .. but world wide the average person has about 10 partners ..i am not going to sit on the side and watch |
There is your answer your love was not enough and waiting is a deal breaker for you. This is a huge amount of pressure to put on any relationship not only that what if there are comparability issues after.
Only you know if you made the right choice. |
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mike74
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| Posted: Thu Nov 20, 2014 11:59 pm Post subject: |
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And I do feel that I did . But there is still that thought in my head that makes me feel like a jerk for seeing it ad such a problem ..surely if you love some one you should be able to sacrifice such a ....
Nah fuck that sex is a very important part of a relationship. You might love someone but sometimes you have to be able to realise that no matter what feelings you have for someone ..If they don't have the same idea of what a relationship should be then love them enough to let them go .. |
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mike74
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| Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2014 12:01 am Post subject: |
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| I would like to get input from a reader who is strongly celibate. . Male or female . Just to get a different perspective on the topic |
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peterm
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| Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2014 2:29 am Post subject: |
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| mike74 wrote: | | I would like to get input from a reader who is strongly celibate. . Male or female . Just to get a different perspective on the topic |
Good luck in finding one  |
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mike74
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| Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2014 5:48 am Post subject: |
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You right I probably will find it easier finding a freezer to cook my steaks for me .
But if there is some one out there who can give an input .. who maybe experienced this sort of drama or similar situation .who is on the other end of the stick . Give a shout out.  |
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