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peterm
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 Posted: Fri Jul 03, 2015 2:42 pm Post subject: |
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| Great post but here the ladies get to search as well and that rejection applies both ways. It is truly silly to sit around waiting. |
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Love me Tender
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Location: Cape Town
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| Posted: Sat Jul 04, 2015 7:37 am Post subject: |
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| Peterm, I agree its silly to sit around waiting, but you must admit that is exactly what we are doing....I have been on here for some tiMe now and only once have I met someone from here. We went out to dinner...and he paid....but we didn't meet again. He has since found someone ellse....so yes, Peter, we wait...... |
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peterm
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| Posted: Sat Jul 04, 2015 12:39 pm Post subject: |
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| Love me Tender wrote: | | Peterm, I agree its silly to sit around waiting, but you must admit that is exactly what we are doing....I have been on here for some tiMe now and only once have I met someone from here. We went out to dinner...and he paid....but we didn't meet again. He has since found someone ellse....so yes, Peter, we wait...... |
I do not know how important it is to others to meet somebody and I can only speak of myself. I simply do not want to live by myself and find it very difficult to even want to live without love and companionship. Sure I was messed around by a couple of "ladies" and the biggest problem I found was baggage. The next was the I am just looking for friendship and they think they must be pursued with wine and dining and could not even be bothered to pick up the phone.
I really got despondent and very disappointed to the point I was now ignoring contacts to chat or meet. What I could not deny was the fact it was deliberate now probably because I did not want to go through the same experience again. Guys are in general more used to rejection but believe me we feel it as much as you and the more deceitful it is the harder it is.
My most successful strategy was to do a search. Check distance and then profile. Profiles don't tell you much about the person only what they think they are but watch for deal breakers. Then contact the person and be brave about it. ie put a bit of yourself in that contact and be positive.
Hi your interesting profile caught my eye and I thought it would be nice to chat and possibly meet. I see you like ???? and I have been keen on ???? which I find stimulating/relaxing/fascinating/.... tell me how you started.
What have you got to lose? There are plenty of people here just dying to know how you do and what happens.  |
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janguma
Joined: 04 Jul 2015
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| Posted: Sat Jul 04, 2015 12:51 pm Post subject: |
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| Some people (like me)from other countries just join to see what kind of people are on the site,if it pleases me I would stay,if it doesn't I will log out and delete my profile. Some men are not serious about what they want,Hoping they are genuine people out there. |
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Love me Tender
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Location: Cape Town
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| Posted: Sat Jul 04, 2015 1:26 pm Post subject: |
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Yes, Peter, I understand where you are coming from....rejection....we have all been there and know how it feels......the punch in the stomach, the bitter clog of tears in the throat....its a horrible feeling. I know.
However, we don't know until we try....and try.....and try again. As the saying goes: if at first you don't succeed, try, try again! I am sure there are women out there who are just waiting to hear from you. You're an awesome person. Don't let other people tell you any different. And don't change to please others...
There is a lid for every pot, is what my mom used to tell me.....however she forgot to say where to find the right lid! And what you told me about chatting up men in supermarkets.....sorry, it isn't working.....the other day a guy came up to me and said: wouldn't you like to go out for some fish fingers? Huh? I will show him some fish fingers! I'm doing no better at the library! Omw! The other day a guy came up to me and asked me where the self help section was....I said I would tell him, but it would defeat the purpose! So, no.....I tried bars and clubs, but drunk people are not attractive....this guy sat down next to me......drunk...omw! He gave me a sick grin and I asked him what kind of car he drove. Lol! He said a 4x4....I said: :A 4x4! Wow! That's 16! Why didn't you tell me you're a truck driver?' So yes, I'm a hopeless case!!!!! |
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