The Dating Forum

[Eman]

I suppose it's always a good idea to start a topic with a question, only as far as one has an answer to the question, which I don't. I merely have an opinion, for to have an answer is a claim in faith that an answer actually exists and the grand claim in that case would be that you have found it. An opinion does not reprimand you if you are wrong because it leaves an equal space for being wrong as it does for being right. It is a bad but nonetheless true statement that human beings use each other. When we apply those same techniques to tangible beings for the sake of intangible satisfaction, we give the interactions purpose by creating an emotional polity between ourselves and the partner of our choice. In the case of the intellectual this emotional polity already exists but does so only in the intelligible world. In the real world it exists within the ramifications of that idealism, and not in the idealism itself. In short, intellectuals believe the design of this polity should be carried forth only by other intellectuals, and if they have a difficulty in finding that other intellectual, they might build the tendency of appearing self sufficient, which is where the problem of loneliness comes in. The problem of being single comes from the idealism that wanting to be self sufficient ultimately spawns. The problem of the intellectual is that he appears to find a problem in so many things, even in himself but although it may appear to others as seeing a problem with everything, it's rather a critical analysis of everything. An intellectual can argue a point that he doesn't believe in. This in some way may conflict with his capacity for being honest since it appears possible to intellectual to remain honest regardless of which side he stands. The obvious deduction is that we tell truths where we feel lying is out of our experience. This whole 'introspective discourse' is evidence why a relationship with an intellectual is so difficult. It is much more easy dating a normal guy with normal needs. The worst thing he can do is cheat on you. The worst that an intellectual can do to is something not even notable. He is not governed by the same forces as the layman. He can go months without sex which might make it a tad bit harder to get him to surrender as being the culprit of a crime you probably committed first. When the urge comes, he wants to make love with the piano or guitar, or he wants a pen to write something, even a thing as simple as wanting to be left alone, not to gallivant, but as due to the very prospect of being able to be alone. An intellectual is a prisoner to his mind. He does not want parole. He wants you in there with him. He wants to ask a question and go off topic when answering it. He knows why he will always be alone; he cannot make a woman number one in his life. To him its almost impossible. He loves his own ideas then even himself.

[Kronos]

One also needs to consider the fact that we think too much. Being hyper-analytical is not much consolation either. So often, when we find a soul mate, a friend, a remarkable person, there is a catch. Cynicism is a trait which is counter-productive, however, all too often, they leave. This can be through their own will, for no apparent reason, or through marriage. Being alone is a pastime but being lonely is a depressing prospect. Imagination is a brief bubble in the wind.

[Eman]

I often find myself baffled by an exam to the point where I must raise my head, if even to raise suspicion, just to know that there is someone out there who shares the same struggle. I am glad I'm not the only one suffering from Analyst(ia). It would be stupid to believe that I am; but others have a better way of hiding it than I do. In truth, I don't even try. . .

[Kronos]

I am always thinking, analysing, processing and talking to myself (not in a weird way). Mine is subtle, but those who know me, know that I psycho-analyse them. Seriously though, it does not have to be a bad thing. One can use the power of perception constructively. As for "Analystia", the diagnosis is a spoon of "Chillax" every now and then.