peterm
Joined: 15 Jul 2014 Posts: 260 Location: Pietermaritzburg
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Posted: Sat Dec 13, 2014 6:18 pm Post subject: Re: We met online now he won't say n e thing ? ???? |
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Cebisilem wrote: | Hi I would like to know what you guys think I met this guy online we have been talking since may he calls , we can talk for hours and he even visits me in Johannesburg all the way from Mpumalanga (he usually books accommodation) he is very shy I think he likes me as much as I like him but would I be too pushy if I asked him where does he see us in the near future because he doesn't even mention any feelings for me but I find it strange that he is willing to spend so much time with me or should I just go with the flow and enjoy the attention while I know that I want more from him . |
Seeing as you talk for hours you must have a pretty good idea of what he wants in life. If not bring it as a general subject ie What you you like for the future?
A guy who travels to visit you is committed to you. Why else would he make the effort. You want to hear the words but are missing the signs.
Like you he will also need some assurance or hope and there is nothing wrong with "hey I really like you, where to now?" Somebody has ti make the first move and it will not change his feeling or yours. What follows was inevitable. Just don't move to fast and make him feel like he is in control.
Good luck |
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